[108] Is This Message For You? Why Are You So Tired At Work

So today I’m giving an intuitive reading to someone who did not ask me a question. Once in a while, I will ask the energy of the people who are aware of this podcast…

—maybe you’ve listened to it before. Maybe you’re a follower.

And I’m asking, are you stuck? And do you need clarity? And once in a while, somebody will say yes through their energy, and something will pop in my head.

It’s a question. And then through the question, I’m able to zero in on your energy and find you some clarity.

Now maybe you’re too shy to ask a question, or maybe you’re too busy to ask a question, but I still want to answer those who are looking for an answer.

An intuitive answer. So today we’re gonna start with this intuitive reading, and then I’m gonna give you my best technique to find more clarity in your life that is related to the problem that we’re gonna talk about.

One of the cool things about listening to somebody else finding clarity—either they’re talking through their problem with somebody or, in my case, you’re listening to me walk through from confusion to clarity while I’m giving an intuitive reading—is that I start at the problem and I end at the clarity.

There’s something in your brain called mirror neurons that mimic what they see. And in this case, there’s something really cool about mimicking the pattern of clarity. So you go from confusion to clarity, and this is a pattern that can be picked up by those mirror neurons, meaning that you’re more likely to be able to reproduce this pattern if you just listen to it a lot.

It’s kinda like if you watch somebody do something a lot, you’re more likely to be able to pick it up.

And so that is why I do these readings in a podcast format. I’m retired now. I don’t give private readings anymore. This is the only way you can get an intuitive reading with me.

I encourage you to ask a question explicitly. If you’d like to, you can go to my website leftbrainintuitive.com/ask, and you just need to tell me why you’re stuck. I don’t need your email. I don’t need your name. I don’t need anything from you. I just need to know where you’re stuck, and I will find you clarity.

So today’s question that was not asked is about feeling very tired at work.

Very tired. So I feel like you’re a really hardworking person. You’ve put a lot of energy into whatever it is that you do at work. I don’t see what it is.

And you’ve worked a lot. So you had phases in your life where you probably overworked and you were aware of that. You realized, oh yeah, that was too much.

It took me a long time to come back from this.

The logistics of your work—you either have them worked out or you’re working on them. You’re realizing that you’re working too much, and so you’re trying to find a way to change that. This is not what I want to talk about today.

This is just the context because you already know this, and my job is to bring forth information that you don’t have.

That sparks a moment of clarity that resonates with you. And I like to do these readings because maybe whoever is listening has something in common with this person, and the concept or the ideas that will come up here might resonate with you as well.

So it serves many.

Alright, so the context is that you’ve been kind of a hardworking sort of person and you are very tired. You’re tired in a way that feels unusual. Usually, you would be able to abuse yourself a little bit—by which I mean working a little harder than usual for a big push.

Maybe there was a busy time. Maybe there’s something kind of seasonal about your job and so you know when the clients show up, you have to take them.

And it’s been very validating for you to work hard—through people saying that to you: “Wow, you work so hard,” in a sort of admiration, but also through the fact that you’re successful. And a lot of other people are not able to be as successful as you are. And when you explain it to them, part of your success includes working hard.

And so it’s been validated many times—this hardworking part.

And it’s created an energy where now you’re afraid that if you don’t work hard, you will not be successful. And this conflicts with the fact that you know you have been living on borrowed energy. And we can do that for a while. Sometimes we can do that for decades.

We borrow energy from later. We tax our system a little bit, and eventually we get to rest, hopefully.

Sometimes we don’t—and replenish.

Now, in your case, you’ve been borrowing a lot. You’re overdrawn in your energy account and now—I’m sorry, those analogies, they come to me as they are, right? So I try not to distort them. Sometimes they’re a little weird—and now the loan sharks are coming after you to get their money back.

So this is the—the words that came to me.

And what I mean by that is that it’s time to pay up for the energy that you have borrowed. It is true that you have been able to create great success through hard work and through the other skills that you have, but it’s not sustainable at this point.

You’ve reached the point where, if you keep going the way you’re going now, you know you’re gonna crash and burn. And a crash and burn can mean: oh, you need to take a couple of weeks off.

Or eventually—well, no, a couple of weeks was not enough—I need a month. I need three months. And sometimes you just don’t get up from that crash and burn.

I had chronic fatigue syndrome when I was 47. I’m 53 now, and it took me five years to heal from that. So cautionary tale here. I know what borrowing future energy means and how tricky it can be to keep doing it—even when you’re starting to realize that you’re more tired than usual. And that, I think, is the key word that I’m sensing here.

It’s more than usual. You’re not bouncing back.

And yes, you can keep going for the sake of the success, but here’s the conflict.

So this is me describing the problem. Let’s switch towards the moment of clarity here. And I’m gonna say a lot of different things, and really, I will consider myself absolutely successful if you have one moment when you go, “Oh—that moment of clarity!” This is what I’m looking for.

You can have as many as you want while you’re listening to me, but my intention is to give you at least one. Where it can change really the course of where this is heading—’cause it’s not heading in a good direction right now.

And the reason it’s not heading in a good direction is because you have a conflict.

So you’re not solving anything right now. You’re just going back and forth in the same spot. You’re stuck here. Your wagon wheel is stuck in mud. You are in a rut and you can’t get out. So no matter what you do, you always kind of find yourself back here.

It’s like, how did that happen?

So the conflict is between your profound belief that you are successful because you work hard and your body’s need to restore vitality—to rest—so you can have a more sustainable pace of life from here on.

Those two things are in conflict.

And what you’ve been trying to do is hammer a square piece into a round hole. You’re trying to make it fit.

It doesn’t fit, but you’re trying to make it fit. You’re trying to do a little bit less work. You maybe find a couple of tricks that you can use to lower the effort that goes into your work, and you’re trying to rest a little bit more.

You’re not solving the core conflict here. You’re just working around it. The problem is a good way to describe that: you’re working around the problem.

Now, the core conflict is that you believe that the only way to be successful is by working hard. Now, I don’t read minds. So what I’m reading right now is not your mind—I don’t have access to your thoughts—but I do read energy. I do read the trace that is left behind when a thought is repeated. That I can read.

It’s like it’s saved to your hard drive.

It’s repeated so much that it’s saved to the hard drive, and this thought is dominant. It is dominant. That your success is fundamentally related to how hard you work. And there are other skills that you have, but this is there. I don’t know if it’s conscious or not, though.

If it’s not conscious, then you don’t realize that this is a belief that you’ve built your work on—a belief that is detrimental to your health. Because ultimately this is going to crash and burn. There’s no question about it.

I feel you’ve been doing this for a long time—10 years, maybe more—20 years, but it’s not sustainable into the next 40 years, let’s say. So this is the conflict.

And there’s no question that your body knows what it needs, right? So that part is pretty clear. You are unusually tired. So that one is not up for interpretation. The body knows what it’s doing.

The part that is creating this conflict—and I mean the word “creating”—is the belief that you have to work hard to stay successful. That if you stop working hard, it’s all going to disappear and vanish. As if your worth is tied to you constantly stoking that fire, you know?

As if your value comes from you constantly taking this action to keep things going. This belief is pretty damaging, because it’s not true. Because you’ve gotten really good at your job.

To get started, it takes a lot of fuel. Like shooting a rocket into space—lots of fuel just for that moment of takeoff.

So in the beginning of your career, that needed a lot of fuel. And I bet that felt pretty good. You felt productive. I work hard and I get this. And these people are happy with my work, and this felt pretty good.

But eventually, you’re in space, and you don’t need to keep fueling to keep going further and further.

If you use your momentum instead—the momentum that you’ve built over so many years—you would be able to be way more efficient and probably operate your business on 30 to 35% of your current energy use.

So I’m going to pause here for a second because when I say these numbers, I’m reading them from your energy—where I see you’re at right now and where you want to be—where your body is able to rejuvenate and restore and rest.

So I’m comparing these two images, and my brain is able to sort of—I’m a numbers girl, I’m an engineer—and so typically it comes to me in percentages.

So instead of saying “a little,” I’ll say 15%, but the number can be pretty accurate, actually. So when I say that you can be as successful with only 30% of the energy that you’re putting in right now…

I just want you to pause for a second. Imagine that: working 70% less for roughly the same.

So interestingly enough, they would not be exactly the same clients, because there’s something really cool that would happen. There’s a bundle of clients that are high-effort that pretty much give you the same amount of payout as a client that is low-effort, okay?

You have—not predominantly—but you have a good amount of these clients that cost you more. Not money-wise. Energy-wise. They cost you more. And right now, you’re taking them on because they’re clients and they’re showing up.

And you’re like, “Yes, let’s do it.”

But it’s costing you more to work with these people.

So part of that transition to being able to have the same level of success with 70% less energy cost is to leverage what you’ve built—your practice.

“Practice” is not the right word. Your—I don’t want to say “business” either. You don’t think of it as a business, maybe because you love it.

So maybe it’s a love business. I’m mashing words here, but with 70% less energy you could have the similar amount of success, except that some clients would leave, and this is the scary part. This is the conflictual part.

Some clients would leave and new clients would come in, and if you use your intuition to clarify what you want, and to be paying attention to the signals of your intuition in which direction to go in order to get what you want…

You would be able to fill your love business with clients that are just not that expensive—energy-wise.

So instead of having to stop what you’re doing abruptly, which is what you’re staring at—I don’t know when, so I don’t predict the future—but you’re definitely depleting very fast. And you’ll be able to replenish a little bit, but then you’ll deplete very fast. And eventually you’ll be in the red, and the loan sharks are coming for you.

So instead of that, you’ll be able to start rejuvenating and rebuilding your reserve, right? Because right now you have no reserve left. You’re always on a flat tire, changing the tire for the donut, and then driving home on this poorly inflated tire.

So you’ll be able to start to rebuild your reserve, and after you’ve done that, you’ll be able to have more energy.

So ironically, if you lower the amount of energy you invest in your business by 70%, you’ll have more energy to grow your business in new directions.

Something that I think has been on your mind, but you haven’t had—ironically—the energy to do it. This is why.

So of course, the women that listen to this podcast, they’re intuitive, right?

So you already know some of these things. Some of these things are resonating with you. I think you’ve been thinking about growing your love business in a different direction. You don’t necessarily know where or how or what it’s going to look like, but there’s an interesting thing there for you so that the next 20 years are different than the last 20 years.

And the reason I wanted to talk to you today about this—and maybe bring some clarity, something that resonates with you—is that I think it would be very sad if you burned out and you had to abandon this business—your love business—just because you ran this car to the ground and we cannot save it anymore.

It’s too late.

So what can you do today?

Now, this is tricky, because you have zero energy available for improvements or renovations. Zero.

So I can’t suggest anything that requires you to do something that needs effort or energy.

So my best technique in this case is to be aware of what is really awesome in your business—who are your best clients that cost you very little energy.

Notice I didn’t say: who are your best clients that bring you a lot of business? Who are your best clients that bring you a lot of money?

I said: who are the best clients that cost you very little energy?

Be aware of these clients.

You can be appreciative just in your mind. Don’t do anything. Don’t give them anything. Don’t send them a note. Just be appreciative in your mind for these clients, that you love them. They get your love business. They get you. They don’t ask a lot of energy from you.

It’s just a good fit, you know? A good fit.

Just be aware of these specific clients. There’s not that many. It’s a short list, but they’re very powerful—because you want more of these.

So when you are aware and in your mind you just go: “Ah, love this client,” you’re actually telling your intuition: I want more of this.

Can I have more of this?

And likewise, when you’re knee-deep into a client that is very demanding and is driving you crazy and is costing you a lot of energy, spend the least amount of time here. Least amount of time. So do it quickly, resolve the problem, move on. Move, resolve the problem, move on. Don’t try to problem-solve in depth.

How can I prevent this from happening?

All of this is wasted energy at this point. You don’t have the energy to spend on that.

So this combination—you’re aware of the good stuff that you want more of, and you spend less time giving your attention to the stuff you don’t want—is just enough for your intuition to kick in and to very gently say: “Oh, what about this step?”

What about this tiny little step—zero effort on your part?

But what about, instead of problem-solving this tough client today, you actually just took a minute to bask in how cool this other client is?

This is a decision that you make every day.

And your reflex right now is to problem-solve the tough client.

So you give them a lot of airtime in your brain. And your intuition can’t really help you that much there because your intuition knows you have no energy. So it cannot suggest solutions because a solution would take energy even further from you.

This is a bleeding wound. A bleeding wound.

So we don’t want to increase blood flow here to this area.

We want to just shrink that as much as possible. Like a tourniquet—you know, where you constrict the blood flow to this bleeding wound.

So if you have bleeding wound clients, you want to restrict the amount of time you spend thinking about them.

Alright, that’s all I’m getting for you today.

And as always, you might know this, but I do an intuitive bootcamp every month. It’s $39 a month to join us, and it’s a very quick 10–15 minutes in the morning or at night—whichever works for you—and it’s usually five to seven days. It varies a little bit, and we touch on a lot of topics that you might be looking for clarity on, such as your finances, upgrading your finances, or healing symptoms that won’t heal, or upgrading your career to the next level.

So these are all topics that we talk about in these bootcamps. I would love to have you join us.

PS: This Intuition Podcast is available on Apple.