[107] Free Intuitive Reading about Getting Married + My Best Technique To Get What You REALLY Want
Intuition vs. Psychic Predictions
So today we’re gonna start with a free, intuitive reading for one of our listeners. This listener, she asked a question that cannot be answered by intuition. She asked a when question, so she asked to predict the future. And intuition is not being psychic. It’s not the same thing.
In fact, when somebody tells me, “I don’t believe in intuition,” I know for a fact we’re not talking about the same thing—because intuition is a skill that everybody has, but very few people use. But you can tell when somebody’s using it though, because their life looks like they’re so lucky over and over again.
People who just know what to do—they seem to have this amazing clarity. So this is the intuition that I’m talking about. You have it too. However, sometimes it’s a little bit harder to use on ourselves than it is to use for other people. And so that’s why I still offer these free intuitive readings.
I’m retired now, so the only way to get a reading is through this podcast. And if you would like to get your own, you can go to livebrainintuitive.com/ask and tell me where you are stuck. That’s all I need. It’s anonymous. I don’t need your name, I don’t need your email—but you have to answer the question though.
Asking a Good Question
And when I ask, “Where are you stuck?” this person who wanted a reading answered, When am I gonna get married? So intuition can’t productively or efficiently answer that question because the future is probabilities.
So right now, for example, there’s a very low probability that you’ll get married in the next two months. 20% is what it feels like. It’s very low.
Now, why do I not find this very useful? Being psychic—where you make a prediction about the future—you get your feedback when the date arrives, right? So either the event happens as predicted or it doesn’t. Intuition is completely different. Intuition is about the present.
It’s a way to pull useful information from the present and help you make a decision based on that information so that you’re more likely to reach your goal.
So if I tell you, “Well, there’s a 20% chance you’re gonna get married in two months,” that’s not very helpful, right? Probably makes you feel really bad because now you’re disappointed that you won’t get married.
That’s what a psychic might be able to say. Or they might give you a date, and now you have to wait 18 months to see if they were right or wrong.
The Immediate Feedback of Intuition
Intuition gives you immediate feedback. Because if something resonates with you, it means that it’s already there. The information is there in your subconscious, and the only thing I’m doing is shining a flashlight on it so that it can come up to consciousness. That’s the immediate gratification of intuition, you know?
Right away, you know if something resonates with you or not.
The second cool thing is that intuition is about problem-solving. We have the logical mind that solves problems by coming up with a plan, with steps, and achieving the steps to reach the goal.
And intuition is a complement to that, because there are certain circumstances where that doesn’t quite work.
We know we’re stuck, but we have no idea what to do. And this is where intuition comes in. It gives you practical steps, so you go from stuck to your next step by using the information that’s there in your subconscious—or out there in what I call the cloud, where there’s a lot of information stored in the world around us, stored in other people.
In fact, when I’m giving a reading, what am I doing? I’m going to the cloud and I’m looking at you specifically in the cloud. And that’s how I can give you a reading—even though we don’t know each other. I don’t even know your name.
The cool thing about intuition is that it can tell you what you need to do to get what you want, and that’s empowering.
This is my favorite thing about intuition. I like the instant gratification, of course, of having it resonate and the moment of clarity. Love that so much. But what I like the most is that from that moment of clarity, there’s always the next step that shows up.
In fact, when I used to give readings, my job was mostly to describe the problem—the real problem, the soul-deep problem—and then the solution would be pretty much obvious from there.
So let’s do that today. I’m going to take your question about when you’re going to get married, and I’m going to answer it from an intuitive perspective.
Asking Intuition: Where Do you Feel Stuck?
The thing that I ask you on my website when you submit your request for an intuitive reading is, “Where do you feel stuck?”
So in this case, you are not currently married, and you want to be married. That’s where you feel stuck.
Okay, so I always start my readings with this question. I’m just kind of walking you through as I go along what process I use to get a clear intuitive insight. So in this case, I’m going to start by asking the question in my head. I usually do this in my head, but I’m going to say it out loud here for you:
What do you most need to hear about this area of your life?
There is a big void right now in your energy. I don’t read thoughts. I don’t know what you’re thinking about getting married or how you’re feeling about it. What I see is the trace that it left in your energy.
The physical body is like the hard drive of our lives. It remembers everything that ever happened to you. Actually, it remembers things that happened to your ancestors through your genetic code. So the body remembers all that. It’s a huge databank.
When you think the same thought over and over again—even though the thought is fleeting—it leaves a trace behind. It leaves a memory. Some memories are stronger than others.
All of that is stored in your body. Even though I don’t have access to your specific memory of your childhood, I have access to the hard drive, and I can see when a particular area has left a trace.
Defining Your Life by Absence
So in this case—and I don’t know if it’s conscious or not, probably not—there’s a big void when it comes to your life because you are on hold until you get married.
This is really important to you. And honestly, you’re not even asking for a specific kind of partner. You’re not asking for a man that is kind or understanding or that has a lot of money or that can provide for you. You’re not even asking specifically. You’re just, in general, I want to get married.
And that’s tricky, right? Because if you were to just grab a random guy who is also ready to get married, you’d both get married—and most likely, you would not be very happy in that relationship, unless you got really lucky.
So what you most need to hear is that this void has organized your life. The fact that there’s no husband in the middle of your life—you’ve pushed everything else kind of to the side to leave that space in the middle for that thing that is really important to you, which is to get married. Your energy looks like a donut—there’s a hole in the middle.
That hole is occupied by your preoccupation with this husband.
There’s a couple of things here that I feel you really need to hear.
The first one is that not any man is going to make you a good husband. So when you’re thinking about getting married, the most important thing that you need to figure out is: What do you want in this relationship? What do you want in your husband to feel that you have a good husband—that you’re happy in that relationship?
Now, it doesn’t mean you won’t have struggles and you won’t have arguments, but it means that fundamentally, you will have harmony—both at the energy level and also just mentally, just in your interactions with him.
So that’s the first thing: I would love for you to clarify what you want in that relationship with your husband.
The second thing is that this absence is defining you right now, which is a problem—because you’re not here to live through somebody else. Even when you get married, and when you have children, and when you become a wife and you become a mother, those are all things that are secondary to you as a person.
You are the star of your life. And then there’s people who are kind of coming onto your movie. But you are—really not in a selfish sort of way—but just to say that you are the organizing principle of your life. And if you don’t organize, then there’s a void. And it’s sort of like those movies that don’t go anywhere. You’re not quite sure what’s going on, or it’s really boring—nothing ever happens.
So this is a movie without direction—without having that organizing principle.
Creating a Space With Your Intuition
The thing here that’s interesting is all the things that you want in your husband relationship are already there in your life in some way—but you’ve pushed them aside.
Because you want to leave the middle for your husband so that he can be the star of your movie.
And because you’re doing that, you are accidentally missing out on having a fulfilling life right now. And then when you get married, you will continue your fulfilling life, as opposed to being super miserable right now and only being happy when you get married.
That—that sounds tough, because what if it takes 2, 3, 12 years? It could take a while. We don’t know. I don’t predict the future.
But right now, the probability is very low. Right? It’s a 20% chance that you’ll get married in the next few months. So it’s low. It’s possible, absolutely. But it’s very low.
So that’s what you most needed to hear.
So the second question that I usually ask in a reading on behalf of a client is: What is the root cause of this problem? What is the root cause?
And we’ve touched on that a little bit in the first part, but there’s something else here.
And the root cause, for me, is always soul deep. You know, it’s not just what’s happening in everyday life. It’s not just because you maybe want somebody to have children with. It’s not just because you want somebody to provide financially.
There’s something so deep within you that is making you—that is calling you—but you feel stuck about it. That’s the root cause of our problem here.
The Soul Deep Intuitive Root Cause
And the root cause is twofold.
The first thing is that you think repeatedly about the absence. The absence in your life. And it’s kind of like thinking about the absence of love, or the absence of God. That’s never going to feel good—never—because we as human beings are built to experience love and to have a relationship with divinity, in whatever way your religion describes it.
And so it’s kind of like going into a concrete room—a jail—and going, “Wow. Love is not here. God is not here.” It’s very painful. Even me saying it, I feel the emptiness of this, right?
But instead, we go to temple, or we go to church to be filled by the presence of God, or the presence of love. We go to our families to have dinner with them, or we go out with our friends—to be filled with the presence of love.
And this is what your soul is calling for. Your soul is not happy—not that it goes like that—but your soul is calling you to experience the fullness of who you are, by being filled with love. The love that you have right now in your life—with your friends, with your family.
I wonder if you have a pet too—they give great unconditional love.
And to be filled by the presence of this—and to be filled by the presence of divinity—where the hole that used to be there will be filled by this.
Now, notice that when your husband comes in, there will not be interference. Because if your heart is filled with love, there will always be more love available for him.
And so this is not taking away from him. You don’t have to create an empty space for him in the middle of your life.
Instead, you can fill it with love and all the things that you want in this relationship with your husband—so that when he meets you, he will go, “Oh look, this feels so good. I already feel like I’m here in your life—because it’s filled with all the things that I am.”
That feels so much better.
You’re already building a welcoming home for him instead of having a void in the middle.
Does that make sense? I’m hoping it makes sense. I hope it resonates with you.
Okay. The second part of this is that as long as you focus your attention on the absence of him, the only thing that you will see—when you maybe meet someone—is:
Are you? Are you? Are you the husband?
And then it puts you in a position of emptiness again, right?
Because when you’re wondering, “Is this my husband?” you are paying attention—accidentally—to the absence of the fact that you’re not married right now.
You’re paying attention to the absence.
Your intuition can help you get your next step when you know what you want, and when you fill your heart with what you want from things that are already there in your life—and from things that make you feel the way you will when he is there.
But right now, you are filled with the absence, with the lack of him and his presence.
So these are the two problems.
Intuition and a Simple Daily Technique
So, find love and divinity in your life and fill that center space that was empty.
And when you meet someone, a better question would be, “Oh, what quality does he have that I like in a husband?”
Just focus on that part: What quality does this particular man have that I like in a husband?
Not What does he lack?
Not Is he the one?
Because those are all about things you don’t want.
And in time, you’ll refine what it is you want in your husband. This is your contribution to this relationship—for you to know what you want.
Intuition Reminders Using Post-its
So, I always like to give you an intuitive technique that you can use in your life to find more clarity.
And the one I’d like to share with you today is very simple.
I use this all the time, though—which is to write on a Post-it, a little note by your computer, by your mirror in the bathroom, about what you want in the various aspects of your life.
So you might have a Post-it about your husband. What is it that you want in that relationship? Write just a word—not a big paragraph. Notice I said a Post-it, right? It’s small. It’s a small square space.
And I would like you to write words that describe him.
So on the Post-it, you would say: My husband is… and then fill in the blank with a few words.
And then every time you are brushing your teeth and looking at the mirror—or you’re on your computer—the Post-it is right there. And you’re constantly reminded of what you want instead of the lack of it.
And when you do that, your intuition can start helping you—because when your mind is focused entirely on the lack of what you want, your intuition cannot help you.
Because it’s a tool specifically designed to help you get to what you want—by giving you the next step. That’s what it does.
Intuition Needs a Clear Goal
And so, you know, a hammer needs a nail—it needs a nail to hang a picture. If the nail is not there, the hammer can’t do anything for you. It’s just going to make a big hole.
And it’s the same thing here.
That Post-it is the nail—and your intuition is the hammer.
So the more you want to use this tool, the more you want to focus on what you want.
And I love writing these Post-its. I usually have four or five around my computer on any given day. And they change with time—maybe I add a word or I remove a word, or I change the order of the words.
And this is how I am constantly asking my intuition for my next step.
Join The Next Intuition Bootcamp
All right, that’s all I’m getting for you today.
If you’d like to have more concrete techniques like this, I have a bootcamp every month—an Intuition Bootcamp that lasts five to seven days. They’re fairly short, and it’s just five minutes in the morning—five to ten minutes—to do one of the techniques from my Intuition on Demand program, which is a free masterclass.
You can also take the class along with the bootcamp. And we touch on all the big subjects.
So the next one is on upgrading your finances with your intuition, for example.
So if you are listening to this podcast and something resonated within you here, I would love to see you there.
Curious? Take and look at my intuition bootcamps.
I’ll see you there.
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